It's your wedding day, the processional music begins to play the doors begin to open as you walk down the aisle you look at your groom, he is beaming! You can see he can barely contain his excitement, his smile says everything.
Does this sound like your man? Someone who will show his emotions in front of all the guest? Most likely not.
I've been photographing weddings for over 15 years for Elite Images photography and I would say about 90% of grooms are just trying to survive through there wedding ceremony, maybe their thinking about not messing up their lines or maybe they just don't want to pass out in front of a large audience. For what ever the reason it's tough for a guy to concentrate only on you when both of you are the center of attention.
Now don't miss understand me, I think seeing each other for the first time is extremely important and I think it should be magical just as you have imagined. I just think it should be done somewhere else where both you and your groom can show your true emotions and that you can take sometime to really appreciate each other.
So where did the bride and groom not seeing each other come from in the first place? Well it’s based on the ancient Roman's with arranged marriages. Weddings were often arranged by the families of the couple for financial or political gain. The bride and groom were rarely involved in the planning of the wedding and often would not even know each another.
Since the families had a great deal to loose, the groom was not allowed to see the bride before the marriage in case he didn't like the way she looked, he might call the wedding off. The bride was veiled from head to toe for her wedding, and only after the ceremony the groom was allowed to see her for the first time. As time passed, this practice turned into tradition, and some how superstition got into the mix.
So I decide to compile a list of why it is a good reason to see each other before the ceremony for pictures.
- For the flow of the day. Do you even have enough time to get the family pictures done before the reception begins if you wait until after the ceremony? Most often this time is miscalculated.
- There may not be any time after the ceremony. In many churches there may be confession or mass after your ceremony. (Trust me on this one, you'll be kick out.) Always ask your officiant if you can take pictures after the wedding.
- After the receiving line flowers on the groom are crushed and tuxes are smudged with makeup from all the hugs.
- Both of you will be a little nervous before the ceremony, who is better to comfort you than your groom or bride.
- Photography can be a really good distraction from the stress of pre ceremony jitters. Plus that nervous energy works in the photos.
- After the ceremony it is difficult to keep your attention on doing family photos. Quite simple your ready to party!
- Doing some of the photography before the ceremony, like family portraits and formals, and then doing some after will keep your photography time fresh. This way you can get all the family pictures done before the ceremony so afterwards you can go out and have fun pictures of the two of you and with your wedding party.
- Finally, when you take time before the ceremony to see each other we can capture pictures of the two of you meeting in a beautiful location without the pressure of an audience.
By seeing each other before the ceremony, you'll have a more enjoyable wedding day experience. Your wedding photos won't be rushed and you will get even better portraits.
So what do you think? Tell us about your wedding day experience? Did you see each other before the ceremony or not? What way do you think is better?